Making Friends

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Moving Schools

Most schools are quite similar in that there will be a mixture of pupils, some get on well, others are always falling out. Generally though, students will want to get to know a new person because they come from somewhere different, with new stories and experiences. Remember:

  • The children at your new school will probably have similar interests to you: music, tv, fashion, for example, so find out what you have in common with other people.
  • It takes time to build a close friendship so be patient and if it takes a few days to find someone you really get on with, don’t worry too much.
  • Don’t put up a front because others will quickly see through it.
  • Be aware that people may ask about your family, so think about what you are going to say beforehand if you don’t want to go into all the details. You could discuss with your carer so you feel confident if you 
  • Even though it can be tricky, don’t be afraid to start up a conversation with someone you don’t know.



Bullying usually starts with people picking on someone else because something about them is different. It could be how they look, or how they’re doing at school.

However it happens the person who is bullied usually feels awful and it affects how they’re doing at school and relationships with other people. It is really important to tell someone you trust if you’re being bullied. This could be a teacher, your social worker or your carer.

If you’re being bullied:

  • Write down what has happened and when.
  • Stay in a group, with trusted friends.
  • Walk away.
  • Share how you’re feeling with someone you trust, they can help you deal with it.
  • Think of replies to unkind comments, so that you are prepared and know how to respond.


Young people now also have to deal with cyber bullying – via mobile phones or Facebook for example. Click here for information and advice from Childline about cyberbulling and what to do. They have even made an app called 'Zipit' which can help you stay safe online.


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